Surveys
Sexual Addiction Screening Test (SAST)
The Sexual Addiction Screening Test (SAST) is a confidential self-assessment tool created to help identify patterns of sexually compulsive behavior that may suggest sex addiction. It offers insight into whether further evaluation or support may be beneficial. This screening is not a diagnosis but serves as a starting point for understanding your relationship with sexual behavior and whether it may be interfering with your well-being or relationships.
The Betrayal Bond Index (BBI)
The Betrayal Bond Index (BBI) is a self-assessment tool designed to help identify signs of traumatic bonding—where emotional attachment is formed through repeated betrayal, manipulation, or abuse. This pattern often keeps individuals emotionally entangled in harmful relationships, despite knowing the relationship is unhealthy. The BBI provides insight into these dynamics, helping you recognize whether a betrayal bond may be impacting your ability to break free, heal, or rebuild self-trust.
Resources
Boundaries.
Boundaries are the personal limits we set to protect our emotional, physical, and mental well-being. They define what is acceptable and unacceptable in how others treat us—and how we treat ourselves. Healthy boundaries create safety, clarity, and respect in relationships, allowing us to stay connected to others without losing connection to ourselves.
Rebuilding Trust.
Rebuilding trust after infidelity is a complex and deeply emotional journey—but it is possible. In my work with couples, I guide partners through a structured trust recovery process grounded in accountability, emotional safety, and meaningful repair. Healing doesn’t happen through apologies alone—it requires consistent action, transparency, and a willingness to address the pain and the patterns that led to betrayal. With the right support, couples can move beyond survival and into a more honest, connected, and resilient relationship.
Betrayal Trauma.
Betrayal trauma occurs when someone you deeply trust—typically a partner—violates that trust through infidelity, deception, or hidden behaviors like pornography use. The impact goes far beyond heartbreak; it can feel disorienting, destabilizing, and traumatic. You may find yourself swinging between numbness and rage, obsessively searching for answers, or questioning your own worth and sanity. This isn’t overreacting—it’s your nervous system responding to a profound violation of safety and attachment. Healing betrayal trauma involves more than just rebuilding trust with your partner; it requires rebuilding trust with yourself. With the right support, you can begin to process the pain, reclaim your voice, and move toward clarity, stability, and self-worth.
Sexual Addiction.
Sexual addiction is a pattern of compulsive sexual behavior that feels out of control and often leads to secrecy, shame, and significant consequences in relationships, work, or daily life. It’s not defined by the amount of sexual activity, but by the inability to stop despite negative effects. Many individuals turn to sex, pornography, or fantasy to escape emotional pain, stress, or disconnection—only to find themselves caught in a cycle of guilt and isolation. Recovery isn’t just about stopping the behavior; it’s about healing the underlying wounds, learning healthier coping strategies, and rebuilding trust with yourself and others. With support and a clear recovery plan, lasting change is possible.
Behavior Change.
Making meaningful change in your life doesn’t start with willpower—it starts with clarity, commitment, and compassion. Whether you’re trying to break a habit, create new routines, or rebuild trust after betrayal, behavior change requires more than motivation. It takes structure, accountability, and the right support. I help clients identify what truly matters, navigate setbacks without shame, and build habits that align with their values. Together, we’ll develop a step-by-step plan that works for your life—not against it—so you can create lasting, sustainable growth.
Polyvagal Theory.
Polyvagal Theory, developed by Dr. Stephen Porges, explains how our nervous system responds to safety, danger, and connection. It highlights three states: the ventral vagal state (where we feel calm, safe, and socially engaged), the sympathetic state (where we’re activated to fight or flee), and the dorsal vagal state (where we shut down or disconnect). This theory helps us understand why we might feel overwhelmed, numb, anxious, or disconnected in certain situations—especially after trauma. In therapy, I use polyvagal-informed approaches to help you recognize your body's cues, gently shift out of survival states, and build a deeper sense of safety and emotional regulation.
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Recommended Mental Health & Wellness Apps
Headspace
Offers guided meditations designed to support stress reduction, anxiety relief, better sleep, and improved focus.
Calm
Features soothing sleep stories, meditation exercises, and relaxation tools to promote rest and mindfulness.
Happify
Built on principles of positive psychology and cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), this app helps boost emotional well-being and reduce stress.
Finch
A self-care companion app where users care for a virtual pet by completing daily self-care tasks and healthy habits.
Daylio
A private journal and mood tracker that helps users monitor emotions, behaviors, and wellness patterns over time.
MindShift CBT
Uses evidence-based CBT techniques to help users recognize, manage, and reduce anxiety through structured tools and exercises.
Fabulous
A science-based habit-building app that helps users establish daily routines focused on wellness, productivity, and self-discipline.
Aloe Bud
A gentle, aesthetically pleasing app that provides subtle reminders for hydration, movement, mindfulness, and gratitude.
Sanvello
Combines guided meditations, mood tracking, journaling, and breathwork to support users in managing stress and anxiety.
Daily recovery is about more than just avoiding harmful behaviors—it’s about showing up for yourself with consistency, compassion, and intention. A structured daily check-in helps you stay connected to your emotions, manage cravings, and reflect on your progress. Pairing this with intentional self-care—like grounding exercises, healthy movement, nourishing food, and nervous system support—creates the stability and resilience needed for long-term healing. Whether it’s journaling, walking in nature, meditating, or simply holding space for your emotions, these daily rituals become the foundation for lasting change and self-trust.
The window of tolerance is a term used to describe the optimal zone of nervous system arousal where we feel grounded, present, and able to cope with stress. When we’re inside this window, we can think clearly, connect with others, and respond to challenges with flexibility. But when we’re pushed outside of it—due to trauma, overwhelm, or chronic stress—we may shift into hyperarousal (anxiety, panic, anger) or hypoarousal (numbness, disconnection, shutdown). Therapy and self-regulation practices help expand this window, making it easier to stay balanced and resilient even in the face of emotional triggers or difficult experiences.