Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) is a powerful therapy for healing trauma, but many people don’t realize that the preparation phase—known as resourcing—is just as important as the trauma processing itself.

Attachment theory tells us that the way we bond with caregivers in childhood shapes our patterns of intimacy, trust, and emotional connection. Many assume that if you had a secure attachment as a child, you’re set for life. But the truth is, attachment is fluid—it can shift across the lifespan.

Sexual difficulties rarely stem from “just” biology or “just” psychology. More often, they live in the nervous system—where stress, shame, trauma, and relational patterns become stored in the body. This is where somatic sex practices come in. By combining sex therapy with body-based awareness, clients can reclaim pleasure, authenticity, and safety in their intimate lives.

When couples discuss infidelity, the conversation often centers around physical affairs or emotional connections outside the relationship. But in many marriages and partnerships, pornography use can carry the same weight of betrayal. For some, porn feels like “just looking,” while for others, it strikes at the heart of trust and intimacy.

Love is meant to be nourishing, grounding, and real. Yet for many, what feels like “love” is actually a form of addiction. Love addiction isn’t about too much love—it’s about relying on relationships or fantasies to avoid facing pain, loneliness, or unresolved wounds.

When couples face the devastation of sexual betrayal and addiction, both partners often hope for a clear roadmap to healing. Yet one of the hardest realities to accept is that betrayal trauma and sexual addiction recovery follow different timelines.

Moving too fast can overwhelm a client’s nervous system and cause harm, while moving too slow can leave them stuck in patterns that never resolve.

Couples therapy isn’t just about solving problems—it’s about creating a safe and connected foundation where solutions can take root. When partners prioritize understanding over fixing, they not only resolve conflicts more effectively but also build trust, compassion, and resilience for the future.

Whether you’re navigating triggers in a partnership, healing from betrayal, struggling with emotional dysregulation, or simply tired of the same inner critic, EMDR can help you break free from patterns that were never yours to begin with.

Why is it so hard to heal from codependency, even when you know better?

Because codependency isn’t just a behavior pattern.
It’s a survival strategy.

It was smart when you were younger. It helped you feel safe, needed, valued—even when you weren’t being loved in the ways you deserved. But healing from it as an adult? That takes more than insight.

The truth is: sexual kinks are incredibly common. And like any other part of our sexuality, they often develop for a reason—sometimes through early associations, emotional wiring, nervous system imprinting, or even healing responses to trauma.

I guide couples through this process using a trauma-informed lens, integrating Gottman Method, EMDR, and Internal Family Systems when appropriate. This is tender, courageous work—and you don’t have to do it alone.

When people think about ADHD, they often picture a distracted student, a messy desk, or an adult who constantly loses their keys. But what’s often missed is how ADHD can quietly—and powerfully—intersect with sexual behavior.

Infidelity is one of the most devastating blows a relationship can face. The emotional fallout is intense—shame, grief, anger, confusion, and heartbreak all intertwine. But despite the pain, healing is possible. And if you’re the one who broke the trust, know this: you play a crucial role in whether the relationship can truly recover.

Being discarded by someone you love, especially when it's for someone else, can feel like a brutal emotional sucker punch. It often comes out of nowhere, with no warning, leaving you in a whirlwind of confusion, grief, and self-doubt. If you're here, you're likely searching for answers—or simply trying to catch your breath.

Couples therapy is a powerful resource for improving communication, rebuilding trust, and fostering emotional intimacy. However, not every relationship can—or should—be saved. Despite best intentions, some relationship challenges run too deep for therapy to resolve.

When IFS and EMDR therapy are combined, the result is a deeply compassionate and effective approach to healing trauma. IFS lays the groundwork, supports the inner system during EMDR, and integrates the changes that emerge. EMDR, in turn, accelerates trauma processing and helps release the emotional charge of painful memories.

Love addiction (also called relationship addiction or a trauma bond) isn't about healthy romantic desire. It's about emotional survival. You feel like you need this person to be okay—often despite your values, your pain, or your better judgment.

Bringing up a kink with your partner can feel exciting—or terrifying. Maybe you’ve carried this desire quietly for years, unsure how it would land. Maybe you're newly discovering what turns you on and wondering how to open up without ruining the dynamic you have.

You are not owed sex. Not from your wife. Not because you’re married. And definitely not because you have a penis.

This mindset—whether conscious or unconscious—is a root issue in many betrayals, and unless it’s addressed head-on, recovery will stall and relationships won’t heal.