“I Don’t Trust Myself Anymore.”

Many women say this quietly.

Not just:
“I don’t trust him.”

But:
“I don’t trust my instincts.”
“I don’t trust my judgment.”
“I don’t trust what I’m feeling.”

Gaslighting, minimization, and repeated rupture destabilize internal authority.

Over time, you may begin to question your perception of reality.

Rebuilding trust in yourself is central to healing.

Why You Can’t “Just Leave”

If you find yourself looping in the relationship despite the pain, you may wonder:

“What is wrong with me?”

Trauma bonding is not a character flaw.

It is intermittent reinforcement wiring in an attachment system.

When connection and rupture alternate unpredictably, the nervous system bonds more intensely.

The unpredictability increases vigilance.
Brief moments of closeness feel amplified.
The attachment system remains activated.

If distress feels bigger than the current moment, it often means your nervous system is responding from older conditioning — long before you had words for it.

This is conditioning, not weakness.

What Healing Actually Requires

Healing from betrayal and trauma bonding is not about forcing yourself to be stronger.

It requires rebuilding internal safety.

In our work, we focus on:

• Nervous system regulation (Polyvagal-informed work)

• Trauma processing using EMDR

• Identifying and unblending protective parts (Internal Family Systems)

• Attachment-based trauma repair

• Deconditioning reinforcement loops

• Strengthening boundaries from regulation, not panic

• Restoring trust in your own perception

This work goes deeper than talk therapy.

We address the implicit, pre-verbal attachment conditioning that keeps your nervous system organized around threat.

This Is Active Work

In the early stages, we will make space for the shock, grief, and anger.

But healing does not happen by monitoring his behavior alone.

It requires actively rebuilding your internal stability.

That means:

• Practicing regulation techniques outside of sessions

• Learning to track your internal state

• Gradually shifting from monitoring him to stabilizing yourself

If you are not willing to engage in that process, this approach will feel frustrating.

If you are willing, it can be transformative.

The Shift: From Panic to Self-Trust

As internal safety is rebuilt, something changes.

You stop organizing your life around his behavior.

You begin to:

• Trust your perception again

• Feel your emotions without collapsing into self-doubt

• Set boundaries from steadiness instead of fear

• Disengage from reinforcement loops

• Choose yourself without panic

Healing does not require him to change first.

It requires you to stop abandoning yourself in order to preserve the relationship.

When you are regulated and grounded, your decisions become clear — whether you stay or leave.

A Note About Focus

This work centers on your nervous system and your internal stabilization. It is not focused on diagnosing your partner, proving wrongdoing, or strategizing how to control his behavior. While relational dynamics are explored, the primary goal is restoring your internal authority and capacity to make clear decisions from steadiness rather than panic.

You Don’t Have to Navigate This Alone

If your world feels destabilized and you no longer trust your own perception, therapy can help you restore internal safety and clarity.

This work is structured, trauma-informed, and grounded in nervous system science.

You deserve to feel steady in yourself again.

Ways to Work With Me

Healing from betrayal and trauma bonding requires structure and nervous system stabilization. There are multiple entry points depending on your location, readiness, and level of support needed.

Individual Therapy

I provide individual trauma-informed therapy for women located in:

Colorado
Florida
Texas
Virginia
Vermont

Individual work focuses on:

• Nervous system stabilization
• EMDR trauma processing
• Attachment repair
• Deconditioning trauma bond patterns
• Rebuilding internal authority

This is depth-oriented work and is best suited for women ready to actively engage in regulation practice outside of sessions.

Insurance and private pay options are available depending on location.

Betrayal Trauma Course

For women who want to begin stabilizing privately, the Betrayal Trauma course provides structured psychoeducation on:

• Attachment shock
• Nervous system dysregulation
• Hypervigilance cycles
• Rebuilding internal safety
• Early boundary formation

This course is self-paced and designed to reduce confusion and self-doubt in the early stages of rupture.

Trauma Bond Recovery Course

This course focuses specifically on:

• Intermittent reinforcement wiring
• Attachment activation under unpredictability
• Breaking reinforcement loops
• Identity destabilization
• Choosing yourself without panic

It is appropriate whether you are considering leaving or trying to stabilize within the relationship.

Foundations Group (Forming Now)

Due to limited availability for individual sessions, I am forming structured psychoeducational groups focused on:

• Nervous system regulation
• Trauma bond deconditioning
• Attachment repair
• Boundary stabilization
• Identity rebuilding after rupture

Groups provide skill-building, guided structure, and co-regulation support in a contained environment.

These groups are educational and structured, and may serve as preparation for deeper individual work.

Choosing the Right Starting Point

If you are unsure where to begin, start with:

• A course if you need immediate structure and clarity
• The group if you want guided skill-building
• Individual therapy if you are ready for trauma processing and deeper repair

All prospective individual clients complete a brief readiness questionnaire prior to scheduling to ensure the appropriate level of care.